...we [men] can never expect her to provide validation. A naive man may think: “If I have objective qualities, then she can reassure me of my qualities.” But what defines your value as a man, more than any other quality, is your unreasoning self-conviction. The quintessential unattractive quality is: needy of validation. (By contrast, a needy woman is as attractive or unattractive as her looks.)
Täytyy myöntää, että hypoteesi on hyvin artikuloitu ja (suppean) kokemusaineistoni pohjalta on myös vaikea väittää vastaan.